“… yes, not choosing is also a choice”
Posted by adminNonetheless, you have a choice’
by Michael Murphy www.positiveattitudes.com
I used to read statements like the above and think “It’s alright for you to say that but you have evidently never been in the place I’m in right now! Easier said than done to just choose my attitude!’
And not surprisingly, I got the default results of doing nothing. I have been through depression, unhappiness, frustration, discontent and the rest… Then one day, I read a book.
The book was ‘Out of the Blue… delight comes into our lives‘ by Mark Victor Hansen (coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Soul). It is dedicated to living with an attitude of Delight, to see the Sliver Linings in life no matter how dark the storm clouds may be.
And not surprisingly, I got the favorable results that go with making the choice to do something and change my attitude. Life didn’t suddenly become full of sunshine, but I was more aware of the moments when rays of sunshine broke into my daily living. And I was grateful for them.
‘Attitude is what determines whether or not you’re going to achieve your goals and live the life that you’ve always imagine. Attitude will determine whether you’ll be a whiner or winner in your life.’
by Michael Murphy www.positiveattitudes.com
For those of you on the coaching journey, the subject of goals comes up quite frequently. You either love ‘em or hate ‘em 
but really, we live with goals every day - they just might not be very challenging ones. Like watching a favourite TV program, going to a footy match, meeting friends for dinner. It takes an attitude of ‘I can do this’ to take action on goals that might be more challenging. Like exercising three times a week when you don’t enjoy exercising, arranging a special mum + teenage kids afternoon when the relationship is already crumbling, starting a new business when the last one was unsuccessful, or perhaps changing the negative thought patterns that circle like squawking crows in the head.
‘A positive attitude can engulf negativity much like light overcomes darkness. Go into a dark room. Turn on the light. The light immediately dispels the darkness.’
by Michael Murphy www.positiveattitudes.com
Be warned, today’s video is slow. It won’t stimulate your senses with quick moving screens but if you set aside about 5 mins of quiet time (which you deserve) there are truths in it that are worth contemplating.
‘Progress can only be made when you are moving forward in your life. A
positive attitude fuels that forward movement and gets you to your
desired destination.’
Cheers
Carolyn
Dear Carolyn,
There are a lot of things happening in my life which feel completely out of my control. At times I have felt trapped, lost, frustrated and upset by many of them.
It truly is encouraging to know that although there may be things I can not change, that I do in fact have control over one hugely important thing - Myself.
This revelation may not alter what I can not control, but it certainly does give me back the power to stop being a victim.
I had chosen to take steps in my life which have resulted in me being where I am now, and I can now choose to takes steps in my attitude and life direction which can certainly allow me to find that ’sliver lining’ again!
Many thanks for your fantastic articles.
Fleur
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